The main thing is to be understanding and encouraging. Ask him how you can assist and support him. This question alone will mean so much to your son, and will reveal your unconditional love to him as he strives to pursue the Lord’s will.

Respect his privacy and ask him whether you should keep his discernment confidential for the moment.

It would be helpful – both to you and to him – if you were learn more about his vocation. There are many useful resources on this website to learn more about discernment, seminary life, and the priesthood.

Most of all, pray for him! Give thanks to God for his life and ask the Lord to assist him with the grace of clarity and courage in following his vocation.

Depending on his age and educational background, it will take between six and eight years to become a priest. One of the main reasons why it takes so long to become a priest, aside from all the intellectual formation that is needed, is to give a man plenty of time to ensure that it is the right path for him.

Please see this section of the website for more details on the years of formation.

It is the intention of the Diocese that, whenever possible, financial considerations would never prevent a man from pursuing a call to the priesthood.

If your son will be pursuing or finishing his college as a seminarian, the Diocese helps significantly with college funding, asking simply that a man help with the cost of tuition at a reduced rate. If he already has a college degree, then all but some personal expenses are assumed by the diocese.

The overwhelming majority of priests are extremely happy in their vocations. Why? Because they are doing what the Lord intended for their lives. Most priests will cite administering the Sacraments, preaching the Word, and helping people and their families as great sources of satisfaction. Ultimately, the source of happiness for any child of God is his or her relationship with Jesus Christ and the priest is given the privilege of acting in the person of Christ at key moments in the life of the Church. Studies consistently show that priests are very happy in their ministry, in far higher percentages than those studied in virtually any other life work. One recent and exhaustive study of the priesthood was done by Msgr. Stephen Rossetti, who published his findings in the very readable Why Priests Are Happy: A Study of the Psychological and Spiritual Health of Priests.

It is important to keep in mind that there is a difference between aloneness and loneliness. In the life of a priest, moments of solitude or aloneness are required for prayer, reflection, homily preparation, and rest. Many priests experience aloneness without feeling lonely. Further, in the midst of his ministry, a priest interacts with hundreds of individuals a week, and many life-giving friendships are enjoyed.

Still, no vocation, even marriage, is immune to loneliness. Therefore, a priest must always be vigilant in maintaining healthy relationships with family, friends, brother priests, religious brothers and sisters and parishioners.

If your son’s discernment leads him to enter seminary, his departure will be similar to a son leaving home to attend college or to enlist in the military. There will be an inevitable transition period for each of you. He will most likely make visits home during Thanksgiving, Christmas, and over the summer vacation each year. Throughout his formation in seminary, he will be encouraged to maintain and develop family relationships through periodic visits and by frequent communication.
It is possible that your son could spend as few as five days or as many as a five years in seminary and discern that the priesthood is not for him. There is nothing shameful about withdrawing from a program for this reason. The time spent in formation should never be considered a waste. Your son will have grown in holiness, self-awareness, and in personal maturity through the entire process of discernment and his time in formation.